SIGNS OF INFIDELITY
Why do women cheat?
The hidden motives of an unfaithful wife.
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF WHY WOMEN CHEAT
Here's the reality of the female heart.
Women crave romance like the desert craves rain. And by romance, I don’t mean the Hollywood manufactured version. I am talking about adventure and the excitement of being wooed, pursued, understood, appreciated and admired.
For many women there is no such thing as too much romance. Even if they can’t get it in real life – they will seek it in fantasy. Think about it. Why do you think romance novels account for more than half of all the books sold on the planet? They fill a void for millions of women.
As a matter of fact, research into why women love romance novels shows that the female reader is seeking is to identify with the heroine, so she too can experience similar sensations of being pursued and desired. Some female readers engage to the point of releasing adrenalin, and endorphins, making the experience highly addictive!
Am I saying that the decline of romance in a marriage or relationship is what automatically leads women to cheat? No.
But when you think about it, it does leave the back door open, doesn’t it?
Sure it does. In fact, it has been my experience that most female “wayward partners” I’ve talked with were more motivated by emotional hunger than any physical or lustful reasons.
Women tend to cheat for more “feeling” reasons.
These may include feeling special and desirable, as a boost for insecurities or the need for affirmation. Many women walk around with invisible empty reservoirs of emotional desires they aren’t even aware they have.
Here’s another startling tidbit of information:
While, for men, a one-night stand (ONS) is common and based on opportunity, for most women the steps that lead to an affair tend to develop over time.
For women, it’s a slippery slope.
The seduction happens incrementally. One small thing leads to another small thing and without too much awareness, her hidden emotional yearnings get triggered and filled.
It might surprise you to know that right here on the Internet are communities and news groups of pick-up artists and seduction experts who teach men how to seduce married women; all the tactics and techniques they use are based on knowing these hidden emotional land mines.
The reality is…
Just because a woman is married doesn’t mean she’s lost the desire to be dated, courted, romanced and seduced.
The desire is there, but with the reality of soccer games, careers, mortgage payments and in-laws, those “girlish yearnings” are buried.
Then along comes “Mr. Stimulating”. All it takes are the “right” words at the right time, over the right amount of time, to trigger these desires again.
To help you get a clearer picture of the psychology of why women cheat, here are some quotes from actual cheating females, regarding their motives and reasons for cheating:
 WHY I CHEATED...
“He was so much better at expressing himself.”
“I felt a rush of excitement hundreds of times greater than anything I had ever felt before.”
“Meeting him was so scary and yet so exciting. It was the most adventurous thing I have done in years.”
“Finally…this was something I was doing for me.”
"I found I just couldn’t help myself."
“I felt like he touched my soul, even before he ever touched by body.”
“I felt like I was drowning in his eyes.”
""My husband doesn't love me anymore – that was obvious way before I ever met the other man."
“…it was such a long time since any one treated me that way.”
“I felt like he really listened to me.”
“I had been pregnant for 4 years and gained a lot of weight; maybe that’s why it felt good that someone was attracted to me.”
“On the outside I was a super achiever, great husband, great career, great kids - but on the inside I was feeling empty, not happy with myself; the side glances from other men would let me know I was attractive and I just began to crave them to feel good.”
“I am intelligent. I am pretty. I am a good person. Yet, I feel totally unlovable by anyone other than my kids. I never knew I could be attracted to another woman – except to say she made me feel lovable.”
“I used to be madly in love with my husband…but after years of his criticism, sarcasm and put-downs, it was nice to respected by another man. If my husband had been careful with my love, I wouldn't have had the wounds for someone else to soothe.”
“He would “eye hustle” younger women in the mall. He’d make "jokes" about my sagging extra skin. He constantly gawked at the cheerleaders during the football games – so when another man told me I was beautiful, it melted me like butter.”
“I did it for ME to help rebuild some of my self-esteem that I’d lost to the years of veiled accusations and insults from my husband.”
In case you are wondering...
is the emotional yearnings are the only reasons for female infidelity, the answer is…Of course not.
The truth is a poor relationship with “self” makes most women vulnerable to temptation.
A note to the wise…
Looking outside for external validation is always a poor choice, since no one can give it to you but you. Seeking a sense of fulfillment from other people only leads to eventual disappointment.
The belief that happiness comes from “the outside in” is what keeps many women emotionally starved.
If you are a woman in a committed relationship and you are starting to feel dissatisfaction, or a yearning for more, do NOT ignore these feelings. They must be dealt with honestly. I encourage you to book a private consultation with me. Your first 30 minute session is free. I can help you explore these feelings in an open, honest way. And show you how to get ALL your needs met without having to go outside of beyond your current relationship.
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