What others are saying
The sessions helped tremendously to better manage the negative thoughts
Good Morning, Thank you so much for this, I can't remember the last time someone did something as nice as this for me. I'm so lost, with the aftermath of this. I wish I had someone without judgment to talk to. I don't have any friends I feel comfortable enough to talk with about what happened... only family, and they are biased to my situation and frankly tired of hearing about it. They either want me to move on or forgive! That simple. I needed help in forgiving and moving forward to save my relationship. I was completely upside down on my way of thinking. Suzie's sessions on forgiveness and healing have helped tremendously - to better manage the negative thoughts that run through my head. Warmest Regards! "Change your thoughts and you change your world. " ~Norman Vincent Peale
Drew
A Betrayed Partner
Talking with her made a big difference with me today
I just want to thank you for squeezing me in with Suzie today. She is amazing. She is a great listener, so down to earth, knowledgeable and I am looking forward to talking with her again. I have already learned a lot from her Wayward Rehab sessions. But talking with her made a big difference with me today.
Dana
A Wayward Partner
Peace and forgiveness is near
As a resource guy, we've gone through so many resources, spiritual, logical, practical, etc. After reading Suzie's material yesterday, today was the first day I woke up in months with a sense of "...peace and forgiveness is near"... As a family court judge, I even used some of Suzie's thoughts today in Court. Thanks a million.
John
A Betrayed Partner
Thank you so much for having these resources available
Thank you so much for having these resources available. Words cannot express how much I thank you for sharing your knowledge. Your advice has helped me not only to walk away from my illicit relationship but also to understand the reasons and rationalizations that kept me there. Suzie's insights have also helped me to begin to work on my marriage and realize the answer to my problems cannot be found in another relationship. I don't know what you went through personally to create this amazing company, but you have been a blessing to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Noemi
A Wayward Partner
Suzie WILL help you
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
Bradon
A Wayward Partner
I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life!
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay, but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
Gary
A Wayward Partner
I was in tears today
Thank you so much Suzie... for everything. I was in tears today, but your articles and coaching sessions on ending the affair really help me. I appreciate the help more than words can express. Thank you!
Lanfen
An Affair Partner
I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!)
I just wanted to thank you again for your quick response with helping me find my password to access my home-study programs. Your website and coaching tools are extremely helpful in my life. I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!) and I wanted to let you and Suzie know that they were such a great help. Words can't even describe how thankful I am for having found Suzie's website when I did. Thank you Again!!!!
Janessa
A Betrayed Partner
It’s better than any therapist meetings or books I’ve read. Amazing!
Suzie, I can't even tell you how helpful these programs have been. I wish I had them 30 days ago. They are better than any therapist meetings or books I've read. Amazing!
Shaylee
A Betrayed Partner
Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling
Thanks so much Suzie. We have found your couples course we have reviewed so far to be VERY helpful and a "breath of fresh air" for both of us as we continue to try and figure out the best way to work through this. Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling, books, etc. and just have not seemed to be able to find a comprehensive approach that has helped make much of a difference for us so far. Finally, we have a sense of hope and direction. Thank you!
Gwen
A Wayward Partner
The need to punish and the constant obsessing is gone
Suzie, There is a small chart I copied into my journal off of your website at the beginning of this dark journey. It contains 3 stages. I can't tell you how many times I have looked at that chart asking myself when I would get to stage 3- Learning and Acceptance? It seemed like I would never truly get there. In an odd twist of fate it was my trip to CA that gave me the final push. The first week, of my two week trip proved to be unpleasant and challenging at best. I wrestled my ego what seemed like minute by minute. It was mentally exhausting. And it was inside of one of the most impulsive things I have ever done that I found peace. Faced with having lived in CA for 10 years and never taking the opportunity to go see the Golden Gate Bridge, I made the decision to go at 5:00 pm Saturday night. As I made it to my destination and I stood on a hill top staring over the Bay area with the Golden Gate Bridge in my foresight (a life long dream of mine), I embraced that moment and felt so courageous...
DONNA
An Affair Partner
After the second time, I felt an honest calming feeling in my stomach
Recently, I came across the GoAskSuzie website and ordered the home-study course for betrayed partners. I listened to it twice in its entirety. After the second time, I felt an honest calming feeling in my stomach. I realized that it was not the affair itself that brought all this suffering to me but MY image that I attached to the event. For the first time in 3 months, I was able to get a good night's sleep and felt somewhat relaxed. Although my husband is still actively in the affair, I have been able to control the one thing that I could control, and that is my thoughts and forgiveness, which gets me through each day. I have learned to take it one day at a time. I do not have a doubt in my mind that with further coaching from Suzie, she will help both of us understand ourselves more, show us how to use the affair as a learning tool, keep our family together and rebuild our marriage and family for the better as God wants us to have. I have never heard of anyone who uses such inspirational, clear, truthful and meaningful words as well as Suzie Johnson....
Jessica
A Betrayed Partner
For the first time in 3 months, I was able to get a good night sleep
Three months ago, I had learned that my husband was and still is having an affair. I was absolutely devastated, hurt, angry and could not get over the thoughts of being betrayed and constantly lied to by the one person in my life who I trusted more than anyone else in the world. I could not sleep, eat and as a result, lost 12 pounds. I had constant nightmares of my husband and his mistress. I was stuck between a rock and a hard place and felt that I had no place to go. The negative vibes, crying, nagging and bad energy that I unintentionally allowed to surface drove my husband and me further apart. We sought the help of numerous online programs, books, 1 coach, 1 hypnotist and 3 counselors but found ourselves stagnant and not getting anywhere. Recently, I came across the Goasksuzie website and ordered the home study course for betrayed partners. I went through it twice in its entirety. After the second time, I felt an honest calming feeling in my stomach. I realized that it was not the affair itself that brought all this suffering to me but MY image that I attached to the...
Kathy
A Betrayed Partner
We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks
I discovered my husband was having an affair about 8 weeks ago we are committed to making our marriage work. We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks but we are getting more out of Suzie's articles and her home study programs than we have been with the counseling. We really appreciate how much she puts into all of her work. Thank you. This has been a Godsend for us
Amy
A Betrayed Partner
Thank you for helping me make sense of this chaos
Suzie, I honestly don't know what I would have done if I didn't find your site on the internet this past Spring. (slight variation: "You find what you need to know when you need to know it!") Thank you for helping me make sense of this chaos and paste my shattered self back together! Wishing you the Best - Always!
Claire
A Betrayed Partner
I broke free about a month ago
Hi Suzie, Your site has been "extremely helpful" to me and I'm forever grateful for this service. I am married and had an affair with my "good friend"'s boyfriend (now fiancé) on and off for several years now. I always struggled with the guilt and betraying my friend. I attempted numerous times to end the affair only to run back into his arms. After reading the articles on your site and going through your End of the Affair program (twice), I broke free about a month ago. Thank you so much!
Michele
A Wayward Partner
Your website has indeed inspired me
Your website has indeed inspired me and shown me the more mistakes I have made with my wife, in trying to rebuild our lovely marriage. It has shown me that reconciliation is a process not a destination and has assisted me to finally decide on which wolf in my heart I should feed. Thank you!
Isaiah
A Wayward Partner
I’ve just finished listening to “Healing the Hurt you didn’t deserve” for the 10th time
I am so impressed with your quick response any time I’ve reached out to you. When my wife and I get through all the mess she’s created (and I believe we will) I would love to explore ways to help you get this information out to others in need. I found the site via a Google search and told my wife about it. She agreed to purchase the materials only because I asked her to do so. She felt like she was in no position to argue against the purchase. However, once she began to listen to the audios related to the “wayward partner” she found the information there life-changing. She told me a couple of days ago that it seems every other sentence or two contains something of great value for her. I, too, have found the audios a tremendous help. I just finished listening to Healing the Hurt You Didn’t Deserve for the 10th time. My wife and I are going away this weekend. I’ve really struggled with anger these last couple of days so listening to the Healing the Hurt… audio this morning has helped. Suzie says that anger is a reaction to fear. I’ve thought a...
Robert
A Betrayed Partner
The End of the Affair was a God-send
The End of the Affair was a God-send! It was VERY helpful. Love the Quiet 10 program. It's helping me sleep better. I felt the way the program was outlined was helpful for me in that it started off identifying the emotional affair and how damaging and disruptive it still is even though it is in the mind. Also, realizing how I was vulnerable to this. I thought also the steps to overcome this were awesome too - especially kicking this person out of my mind and raising the rent! I am going to review the program a few more times. I have ALOT of inner work to do. I have been friends with this man in my life for 25 years! The last year it did cross the line. Thanks so much for you help!
Phoebe
An Affair Partner
We look forward to completing the all the healing and forgiving sessions
DONNA
An Affair Partner
I was wondering how I would make it through this
Thank you so much!! I have been having an emotional affair with a man I met for about a year now. I told him, and he reciprocated, that we were in love, should mates, we had found something amazing. But I was miserable. MISERABLE! It became a day to day struggle and we had so many ups and downs it was amazing we even stayed together, but we "loved" one another so much we'd always find our way back. After a series of events, mostly emotional, I ended things with him today. On a whim actually, I just new it was the right thing to do but had been so afraid to do it. I wasn't happy. When I got home, I cried like I had lost my husband and then I got online and found your program on ending the affair and wow, I honestly feel amazing. I was wondering how I would make it through this and if I had made a wrong decision but now....I'm not even sure I loved him. Cared for, sure, but maybe not love as the pure sense. Infatuation. And I am ashamed that I spent a year sneaking around with a married...
Victoria
A Wayward Partner
I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life
I am sooooo loving the other downloads!! They have helped so much!! Even though these revolve around infidelity, which there hasn't been in our marriage, they are perfect for any situation. I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life!! I am 41 years old and hadn't learned this. It is amazing and is saving my sanity!! Thank you so much!! Love her voice, it's so soothing and relaxing!! Anyway, wanted you to know how much I am loving these! Thank you! Thank you!
Kara
A Betrayed Partner
The program is AMAZING
Thank you so much! The program is AMAZING. I have literally been nodding through the entire thing because I can't believe how accurately it describes me! I can't wait to get some of the other programs she has coming out. Can you let me know when Passionate Monogamy is ready? Thanks again!
Denise
A Wayward Partner
Please let Suzie know that she has changed my life completely
Please let Suzie know that she has changed my life completely. I have listened so many times that I can recite every single part word by word. Thanks so much! It has opened up a different world to me. In two weeks, I have already opened up two business that were on the back burner (due to the idiotic fantasies in my head). I do hope that other people can listen, I have tried to talk to other friends about it, but they are on denial. I hope it is not too late. God Bless and thanks.
Kassidy
An Affair Partner
Self-respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon
Hi Suzie! Thank you for your website. I am learning a lot and your articles give me peace of mind and re-kindle the Love in my heart. Suzie if you were in front of me I would hug you tight. So please pretend, receive my hug of thanks. I appreciate your approach. It makes every wounded psyche back to wholeness. Self respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon. Thank you again and your articles, for a lack of the better word right now, is to me, the best I've read. I still go back to your articles every day and every moment I get . Thank you so much. God bless you. Know that you are helping a lot of people, wounded or not. Hope to meet you in the future.
Lauren
A Betrayed Partner
I’m 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably
Suzie...I'm just so, so, so grateful for you and the inspired work you do. I'm 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably the fetal position partly owing to your loving and so helpful work. And that you offer a treasure trove of free resources is so loving and generous of you. The 14 questions for betrayed spouse is life-affirming. Thank you for offering the vision of achieving wholeness again and the tools to get there. Rich and abundant blessings to you.
Kendall
A Betrayed Partner
After reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim
Thank you Suzie... my husband cheated on me for 4 long years. I knew I saw the red flags but I didn't realize there was such a term as "emotional affair". I thought it was just a strong physical attraction and it will go away. When I felt uncomfortable about the situation, I called the other woman and asked her why she is ruining my marriage. I asked my husband what I have done to deserve this? They finally stopped calling and seeing each other for a little more than a year now. I am still hurting. I still feel betrayed. I am now in shock, knowing that it was a full blown emotional affair. I feel so empty, but after reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim; I will work on being the survivor. I want to go straight, not drive around in circles. You have been a great help. It's like you were talking to me directly. I was not reading, I was listening to you. Thank you for giving me the choices and widening my field of vision.
Yvonne
A Betrayed Partner
He looooved the Skype couples session
Suzie, You were amazing yesterday in focusing on his charisma awareness! He looooved the Skype couple's session. You are such an inspiration! I love you dearest Suzie 😉 Mmmwah!
Natalia
A Wayward Partner
I have been to a lot of counseling but having the recordings is even more helpful
I didn't want to call cause I was embarrassed, but found the coaching sessions so hopeful I had to reach out. I just wanted to say thanks to you and Suzie. I think I would lose my mind without these coaching sessions. I have been to a lot of counseling but having the recordings is even more helpful as I can stop listening to my own inner destructive voice and listen to Suzie. I go to them whenever I start spiraling with anxiety and helps so much. Best $199 I have spent for self-help and development. I have also had a bad history with relationships in general and has helped to change my overall paradigm. So from the bottom of my heart... thanks to you both.
Patricia
A Betrayed Partner
Nothing has been as helpful as Suzie’s sessions
We want to share our story and let people know that Suzie's coaching and courses have been very very helpful to both of us. Twenty-three years of marriage to an exec who had a 3 1/2 year affair with a much younger woman at work. He wanted out after 2 years but thought I'd leave him if I found out so she manipulated him by saying she'd tell me and our children. She said she'd leave him alone if he'd give her a child, which he did (sounds ridiculous when spoken aloud). She told me in December via a text which she denied and then proceeded to tell our children two weeks later. My daughter had an amazing relationship with her father and she now can barely speak to him she's so angry. I am trying to get her to listen too but so far she is unwilling. I agreed to stay with my husband and I was stuck in a roller coaster of pain. He has done everything right since the minute I found out and I knew if I could let go of the pain we would have a very happy future, easier said than done. After listening...
Stephanie
A Betrayed Partner
We are still together, and madly in love once again!
Hi Suzie! You may not remember us, but we (Jack and Nora) were the cattle ranching couple from Colorado. We purchased your Marriage Rehab and did a session with you about a year ago. We are still together, and madly in love once again! If it is possible, we would love to briefly Skype with you sometime to say THANK YOU "in person" (but we don't want to take up any of your valuable time from other couples who need you). If not, we want to say you are incredible (!) and you helped us to get back in touch with our authentic selves so we could get our marriage back on track. Thank you, thank you, thank you. God bless!
Nora
A Betrayed Partner
It is amazing and is saving my sanity!
I am sooooo loving the home study sessions!! They have helped so much!! Even though these revolve around infidelity, which there hasn't been in our marriage, they are perfect for any situation. I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life!! I am 41 years old and hadn't learned this. It is amazing and is saving my sanity!! Thank you so much!! Love her voice, its so soothing and relaxing!! I just let a Doctor friend of my review to one of your sessions, Healing the Hurt, he is so inspired. He has had so much hate for his ex-wife, whom he has talked badly about in front of their kids. I stopped him and said to him he needed to let it go and forgive her, he was so angry and wouldn't look at me... within 1 hr, after listening to her, he is empowered and on your website now wanting more! Wanting to purchase anything he can of hers..... His name is (deleted for privacy). I'm sure you will be hearing from him shortly. Just wanting to give you the heads up. 🙂 Anyway, wanted you to know how much I am...
Gloria
A Betrayed Partner
We have been able to make some very meaningful progress in our recovery
I would like you to know that Suzie's website, blog and coaching sessions have been so very helpful for me and my husband. I so appreciate her outlook and I/we have been able to make some very meaningful progress in our recovery.
Shawna
A Betrayed Partner
For the first time, I feel like we can survive
We are months into the process, but new to Suzie. For the first time, I feel like we can survive and be better.
Barry
A Wayward Partner
Healing the Hurt has made a huge impact on my life
Dear Suzie, Thank you so much for all your hard work. I finally finished listening to all of Healing the Hurt last night. This has made a huge impact on my life. Especially the part on "Ego"... wow! Talk about looking in the mirror. Sometimes it's hard to see the real person you are. Positive changes are being made in my life. Again, thank you!
Melinda
A Betrayed Partner
It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling
I just wanted to reach out and say thank you for this website. I am a partner in an affair that has been going on for two years. I have lost and sacrificed a lot for this much older man with the delusion that it was going to be something more. I left my husband, hurt my family and lost friends. I tried and tried so many times to break it off only to be weak and go back to the self deprecating cycle. I found it so hard to talk to my friends about it because I felt bad for breaking my promise when I would come to them crying and vowing that it was over. I felt foolish and alone. I am well educated and have a fantastic career but man, when it came to him I was weak. I stumbled across this website one night when I was fed up with the un-returned text messages. It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling and just the right way to say the truth without making it negative. Tonight I told him that we need to stop talking. I am sure that he thinks I...
Jenny
A Wayward Partner