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I emerged with a sense of gratitude and renewed hope
Thank you for your insight and assistance today. I'm so grateful to have given myself permission to begin to forgive myself for my behavior. I took a two-hour hike in the woods in the rain today and emerged with a sense of gratitude and renewed hope for my future. I will surely continue to learn how to be my best self, but I feel I am definitely on my way. Your work is important, and I'm so thankful for your coaching.
Your website here has been the most beautiful and genuine thought-provoking source of encouragement that I have ever found
Dear Suzie, It has been four years almost to the day since the discovery of my husband's year-long affair and I have experienced some of my darkest, most painful and challenging moments in these past few years. I have felt like no one on earth was able to console me or comfort me which I found to be true... that God was my strength and my joy during these times and still remains. I have made many mistakes in dealing with the aftermath of my husbands affair by attacking him verbally and even physically at times because of my deep feelings of betrayal. We were the "perfect" happy couple with 2 beautiful little boys and a baby girl on her way. We were always deeply in love and I thought if anything else went wrong on this earth, I knew that my marriage would be solid and strong because of the love and commitment we shared as a couple. I was blindsided and felt like I was hit by a Mack truck when I discovered the truth. It has taken me these years of anger, confusion, sadness to find that my true joy in life wasn't really in the trust...
After reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim
Thank you Suzie... my husband cheated on me for 4 long years. I knew I saw the red flags but I didn't realize there was such a term as "emotional affair". I thought it was just a strong physical attraction and it will go away. When I felt uncomfortable about the situation, I called the other woman and asked her why she is ruining my marriage. I asked my husband what I have done to deserve this? They finally stopped calling and seeing each other for a little more than a year now. I am still hurting. I still feel betrayed. I am now in shock, knowing that it was a full blown emotional affair. I feel so empty, but after reading your blog, I promised myself not to remain a victim; I will work on being the survivor. I want to go straight, not drive around in circles. You have been a great help. It's like you were talking to me directly. I was not reading, I was listening to you. Thank you for giving me the choices and widening my field of vision.
My husband has listened to the first one “How to Survive Her Affair” twice now
Thank you! I have sailed through ALL of the coaching sessions... and they are truly amazing for healing. I can't believe that I did what I did, and Suzie makes me feel human. Although I can't pinpoint the why I did it, which my husband really wants to know... "it just happened," unfortunately. We love each other so much and this just hurts. And yes, I knew in my gut and everything about me said that it was so wrong and yet I succumbed. My husband has listened to the first one How to Survive Her Affair twice now. He can relate to the insights that Suzie speaks about of how the betrayed must feel. I think it makes him feel somewhat normal too.
We are doing great since our 3-day weekend intensive with you
Suzie Hi! Just a note to tell you that we are doing great since our 3-day weekend intensive with you. Mark has now much more "awareness" in all fields of his life: Me, Kids, Work and it is a real miracle to see him acting in a new way. Thank you! As for me, I am feeling safer and I am starting finally to relax and enjoy the renewed energy. Words can't tell you what a blessing you were/are to our lives. God Bless you. Missing you tons!
Peace and forgiveness is near
As a resource guy, we've gone through so many resources, spiritual, logical, practical, etc. After reading Suzie's material yesterday, today was the first day I woke up in months with a sense of "...peace and forgiveness is near"... As a family court judge, I even used some of Suzie's thoughts today in Court. Thanks a million.
We look forward to completing the all the healing and forgiving sessions
We would like to upgrade to Marriage Rehab
We would like to upgrade to Marriage Rehab. (please charge our card on file) I am just starting out with the Betrayed Partner recovery course and have only finished the First Aid session. I have also explored Suzie's goasksuzie.com website. Her message of hope and forgiveness for one's own growth, for the wellness of the self and of the family, and, if possible, also salvaging the marriage, is presented in a logical, realistic, and (in my estimation) comprehensive way. This is what lead me to purchase the Betrayed Partner bundle after reading much of what's available on her website. So much of what she says just somehow "rings true" for me and is insightful and logical. She seems to blend respect for the wonder of life with respect for and acknowledgement of the realities of the situations, emotions, etc that I find myself confronting at this time of extreme challenge in my life. She is clear about the things that she believes must be done, and leaves the rest open as the choice of the individual. This instills confidence and trust. I have recognized that forgiveness is central to my recovery from this experience, and have been looking for a...
Have spent a good part of the afternoon soaking in the program
Thank you for solving the issue with my email and helping me to find my Betrayed Partner program. I logged on successfully and have spent a good part of the afternoon soaking in the program. Perfect information at the perfect time... Please let Suzie know how truly grateful I am. Thank you!
My husband and I worked with Suzie for 8 weeks with a customized program that aimed to facilitate true forgiveness and passion
I believe that nothing that happens in this world is a coincidence. It was by the grace of God that I found Suzie Johnson during one of the most challenging and difficult experiences of my life. My husband of 15 years betrayed my trust by having sex with another woman whom he had known for only a couple of days. I found out in a very shocking and hurtful way and was suffering tremendous emotional and mental pain when I found Suzie Johnson’s website. I was desperately scouring the internet for information about how to deal with infidelity when I found her words. Words that I so desperately needed to hear. It was as if my higher self was speaking to me through her words. Forgiveness – this was the word that jumped off the computer screen at me and the idea that caught my soul’s attention. Suzie points out on her website that True Forgiveness is a sign of intelligence, strength and maturity. Despite my immense sadness and anger -- that was who I wanted to be. At that moment, I knew I wanted to attempt the path of true forgiveness and felt an immediate feeling of relief in...
I don’t think there would be any hope left for my relationship if I hadn’t discovered you
Dear Suzie, First of all, I want to thank you for your amazingness! I don't think there would be any hope left for my relationship if I hadn't discovered you and your brilliant online coaching programs. And I am speaking from a lot of experience with majorly traumatic episodes in my life. Through all of those experiences I have researched and read profusely about the matters I was dealing with and psychological and spiritual approaches to dealing with them. This latest trauma of betrayal has been no different, and you are clearly THE expert in my view. Your voice, your language, your vision, your understanding, your compassion, even your Caribbean accent, all work together to form the perfect guidance for all parties involved in the affair. So thank you with all my heart.
We both have the greatest respect for you
Suzie, we both have the greatest respect for you. God Bless and keep you in the palm of his hand - because that's how you made us feel while we were blindly trusting you to help us though this most devastating period of our lives, while maintaining privacy. Your keen understanding, caring attitude, profound spiritual and spot on intellectual wisdom, still continue to resonate within us. You are truly a gifted person and Coach. Thank you so very much.
I’ve just read moving on from an emotional affair.
Oh my God, I am crying tears of joy right now. I've just read your article on moving on from an emotional affair. I feel that was written just for me. I cannot even believe it. I feel like a person who thought they had a fatal illness only to find out they had a cold. I have been in an emotional affair with a man I met traveling on business. He lives with his wife in another country. I cannot let him go. I refused to let it go further than a kiss and a hug goodbye physically... but I cannot get this man out of my mind. I actually had the thought that it was like a drug addict seeking help and just being told that he is an idiot for using drugs. I could not believe when you compared it to an addiction! Thank you so so so so much for writing that. I am ready to let go of this. You are like that wise teacher... Telling me I am selfish and immoral would not be helpful. For the first time in ages, I feel hope. I had gotten very low. At one point I was...
The most effective information I’ve read or listened to – really well done
Another day of lifesaving wisdom from Suzie Johnson Phew!!! The insights contained in Wayward Rehab is the best, smartest, most effective information I've read or listened to - really well done. Thank you so much!! So grateful to have found this resource.
I was wondering how I would make it through this
Thank you so much!! I have been having an emotional affair with a man I met for about a year now. I told him, and he reciprocated, that we were in love, should mates, we had found something amazing. But I was miserable. MISERABLE! It became a day to day struggle and we had so many ups and downs it was amazing we even stayed together, but we "loved" one another so much we'd always find our way back. After a series of events, mostly emotional, I ended things with him today. On a whim actually, I just new it was the right thing to do but had been so afraid to do it. I wasn't happy. When I got home, I cried like I had lost my husband and then I got online and found your program on ending the affair and wow, I honestly feel amazing. I was wondering how I would make it through this and if I had made a wrong decision but now....I'm not even sure I loved him. Cared for, sure, but maybe not love as the pure sense. Infatuation. And I am ashamed that I spent a year sneaking around with a married...
Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless
I recently purchased your Wayward Rehab home study and have been listening to Suzie. She has been an incredible source of help and support. I am so thankful for her. Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless. I now feel like I can do this and there is a light at the end of this tunnel. I not only feel like I can do it, I now know how. Thank you. My purchase was smooth and the programs easy to access.
It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling
I just wanted to reach out and say thank you for this website. I am a partner in an affair that has been going on for two years. I have lost and sacrificed a lot for this much older man with the delusion that it was going to be something more. I left my husband, hurt my family and lost friends. I tried and tried so many times to break it off only to be weak and go back to the self deprecating cycle. I found it so hard to talk to my friends about it because I felt bad for breaking my promise when I would come to them crying and vowing that it was over. I felt foolish and alone. I am well educated and have a fantastic career but man, when it came to him I was weak. I stumbled across this website one night when I was fed up with the un-returned text messages. It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling and just the right way to say the truth without making it negative. Tonight I told him that we need to stop talking. I am sure that he thinks I...
Without Suzie’s help, we would have gone our separate ways
To the others out there: What can I say? My life was in shambles and the slew of bad choices I had made left me empty and miserable. In trying to save my marriage, I came upon Suzie on the web, and it was as if someone had left a light on in the dark. Desperate for any help. I booked a 60-minute call. Just in that first hour, I knew I found the help my wife and I needed. It was if she knew me. And her frankness and compassion made me feel at ease and open. More so, her philosophy and knowledge was unparalleled, I led my wife to her, and both of us got this feeling, not of a counselor, but of a friend. Suzie helped us down the road that would save our marriage. And I say help, not LEAD!!! Because, while she is there for you with knowledge and understanding, it is you that must do the work. The work is the key. And all I can say is that she will definitely help you get the answers you are looking for. Trust her and her method, everything she does has a reason, everything there...
Suzie is amazing
Suzie is amazing. If she can't get through to someone, I don't think anyone can.
Your advice is so helpful to me
Good morning Suzie! It's funny but by reading so much on your site and going through the Marriage Rehab course, I feel like I already know you, and I want to tell you that your advice is so helpful to me. If not for finding your site I would have not made the progress I have made since finding out about my husbands affair. He feels the same way. Truly, we thank you for all that you do.
I feel truly better
Many thanks. I logged in and have listened avidly to Suzie. I feel truly better. She explained everything so well. I saw what I now need to do. I shall listen again in the morning. Thank you for your wonderful, powerful help.
Thank you so much for all your help
Just wanted to let you know that we were able to successfully download the collection. So far, everything she is saying has been super helpful. Thank you so much for all your help. Please give Suzie my best regards. I sincerely appreciate her diligence and dedication for the intimate health of her clients.
Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this
The day I discovered my husband had been cheating on me was the day I thought my entire life was over. We had only been married for 7 months. The pure shock of that moment struck me like a bolt of lightning. Although the chances of being hit by lightning are much more slim. My first reaction was obviously: divorce. That's the only option at that moment, right? Well, not exactly. After the initial bolt of electricity runs through your body, you have to realize that you can survive after going through such a traumatic experience. You just can't go through it alone. You need someone like Suzie. Your life is not over, it's actually just begun. This intense current running through your bones can kill you if you let it. Don't. Fight. Fight the urge to just lay down and take it. Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this. She gave us the tools to pick up all the charred pieces and build something new again. She's a miracle worker. Please trust her to do the same with you. She helped me rehabilitate...
We would not be where we are in our relationship without her guidance
My name is Alison and my husband had an affair for 4 months. I was totally devastated and felt my whole world was destroyed. I decided to check the internet for help and found Suzie's website. I loved the fact that just her website that was free, was so very informative. It truly was a wealth of information and answered a lot of questions that I had, and validated feelings that I was having. My husband found it also very helpful for himself. I thought what the heck, I would try one session with Suzie. Well, our phone meeting with Suzie was truly amazing. We were offered 12 week coaching plan and found out about the cost. We decided this was something that would be incredibly helpful in our relationship and that would be priceless. We decided that we wanted to be together and wanted to do whatever it took to have more of Suzie's help. We have completed the 12 weeks and our relationship is in a state that I love. I am grateful for the tools that I have learned to apply to my daily living in every aspect of my life. I have learned to love, be...
Forgiving Infidelity was exactly what I needed
Thank you, Suzie. Your Marriage Rehab course has been very helpful. Forgiving Infidelity was exactly what I needed. I am not a self-help kind of person, and when I was blindsided by my husband’s affair (a year and a half after it was over), I didn’t want to confide in anybody. My husband and I decided to work through this together because we love each other very much. It’s a very personal thing, and we wanted to try this before we headed to a marriage counselor. I found it to be insightful and tactful. Again, thank you so much. Your site and coaching programs are wonderful resources!
It was by the grace of God that I found Suzie
I believe that nothing that happens in this world is a coincidence. It was by the grace of God that I found Suzie Johnson during one of the most challenging and difficult experiences of my life. My husband of 15 years betrayed my trust by having sex with another woman whom he known for only a couple days. I found out in a very shocking and hurtful way and was suffering tremendous emotional and mental pain when I found Suzie Johnson’s website. I was desperately scouring the internet for information about how to deal with infidelity when I found her words. Words that I so desperately needed to hear. It was as if my higher self was speaking to me through her words. Forgiveness – this was the word that jumped off the computer screen at me and the idea that caught my soul’s attention. Suzie points out on her website that true forgiveness is a sign of intelligence, strength and maturity. Despite my immense sadness and anger -- that was who I wanted to be. At that moment I knew I wanted to attempt the path of true forgiveness and felt an immediate feeling of relief in just the...
Talking with her made a big difference with me today
I just want to thank you for squeezing me in with Suzie today. She is amazing. She is a great listener, so down to earth, knowledgeable and I am looking forward to talking with her again. I have already learned a lot from her Wayward Rehab sessions. But talking with her made a big difference with me today.
Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling
Thanks so much Suzie. We have found your couples course we have reviewed so far to be VERY helpful and a "breath of fresh air" for both of us as we continue to try and figure out the best way to work through this. Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling, books, etc. and just have not seemed to be able to find a comprehensive approach that has helped make much of a difference for us so far. Finally, we have a sense of hope and direction. Thank you!
It has been a blessing to have found these coaching sessions
The Marriage Rehab coaching sessions have been extremely helpful for both my husband and I so far. We have completed nearly all of our individual sessions and look forward to beginning the joint sessions now that we are both in a better place to do so. The most important takeaways for me so far have been learning how to remove the obstacles to forgiveness, learning how to overcome the fixated mind, and understanding that I am not a victim in this situation. It has been a blessing to have found these coaching sessions which provide a sense of hope for my husband and I, so that we can turn a negative situation into a positive one. Thank you all and keep up the great work!
The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now
This is the perfect stepping stone on my path to recovery. I truly sense it in my spirit. The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now. I have been trying to move forward after the ordeal but seemingly am in a holding pattern. The quick response leads me to believe you genuinely care. This is so needed at the moment. Friends of mine feel empathy but do not understand what going through this entails. Thanks again!
He looooved the Skype couples session
Suzie, You were amazing yesterday in focusing on his charisma awareness! He looooved the Skype couple's session. You are such an inspiration! I love you dearest Suzie 😉 Mmmwah!
For the first time in 3 months, I was able to get a good night sleep
Three months ago, I had learned that my husband was and still is having an affair. I was absolutely devastated, hurt, angry and could not get over the thoughts of being betrayed and constantly lied to by the one person in my life who I trusted more than anyone else in the world. I could not sleep, eat and as a result, lost 12 pounds. I had constant nightmares of my husband and his mistress. I was stuck between a rock and a hard place and felt that I had no place to go. The negative vibes, crying, nagging and bad energy that I unintentionally allowed to surface drove my husband and me further apart. We sought the help of numerous online programs, books, 1 coach, 1 hypnotist and 3 counselors but found ourselves stagnant and not getting anywhere. Recently, I came across the Goasksuzie website and ordered the home study course for betrayed partners. I went through it twice in its entirety. After the second time, I felt an honest calming feeling in my stomach. I realized that it was not the affair itself that brought all this suffering to me but MY image that I attached to the...
Don’t think our relationship has ever been this good
I can’t believe it’s been one year since the “trauma” (not sure what to even call it). I had been uneasy and anxious (for reasons not well understood by me) for the D-Day. But when Aug 26th came, I had forgotten it was the 26th until I saw the calendar and then I recalled all of the emotions and the events and feelings of that day one year ago. I immediately decided to have it be a celebration inside of me and nothing else — I celebrated the witch being gone from the office and gone from our lives. I also celebrate Kevin and our drastically improved relationship. We are learning to more closely listen to the other person, to partner, to have more fun, to be more open and talk about our feelings, be more understanding and loving. We are learning the importance of making the other person feel loved and special and how important it is to show daily affection and admiration and appreciation for the other. I am SOO SOO SOO thankful for Brad initially scheduling us and for Suzie’s help — truly what we needed and we are so grateful to have Suzie as a valuable...
I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive
The sessions really did help me a lot. I am now practicing to look to where my anger is pointing and trying to not get caught up in obsessing in knowing answers to things that really have answers and do not heal. I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive... myself, others in this, and others in my past... as I am finding the process also leads me into childhood events as well. Thanks for everything. You and Suzie are angels!
The End of the Affair was a God-send
The End of the Affair was a God-send! It was VERY helpful. Love the Quiet 10 program. It's helping me sleep better. I felt the way the program was outlined was helpful for me in that it started off identifying the emotional affair and how damaging and disruptive it still is even though it is in the mind. Also, realizing how I was vulnerable to this. I thought also the steps to overcome this were awesome too - especially kicking this person out of my mind and raising the rent! I am going to review the program a few more times. I have ALOT of inner work to do. I have been friends with this man in my life for 25 years! The last year it did cross the line. Thanks so much for you help!
Your website has indeed inspired me
Your website has indeed inspired me and shown me the more mistakes I have made with my wife, in trying to rebuild our lovely marriage. It has shown me that reconciliation is a process not a destination and has assisted me to finally decide on which wolf in my heart I should feed. Thank you!