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I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life
I am sooooo loving the other downloads!! They have helped so much!! Even though these revolve around infidelity, which there hasn't been in our marriage, they are perfect for any situation. I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life!! I am 41 years old and hadn't learned this. It is amazing and is saving my sanity!! Thank you so much!! Love her voice, it's so soothing and relaxing!! Anyway, wanted you to know how much I am loving these! Thank you! Thank you!
I looked at her and I said “I forgive you.”
Suzie, There is a small chart I copied into my journal off of your website at the beginning of this dark journey. It contains 3 stages. I can't tell you how many times I have looked at that chart asking myself when I would get to stage 3- Learning and Acceptance? It seemed like I would never truly get there. In an odd twist of fate, it was my trip to CA that gave me the final push. The first week, of my two-week trip proved to be unpleasant and challenging at best. I wrestled my ego what seemed like minute-by-minute. It was mentally exhausting. And it was inside of one of the most impulsive things I have ever done that I found peace. Faced with having lived in CA for 10 years and never taking the opportunity to go see the Golden Gate Bridge, I made the decision to go at 5:00 pm Saturday night. As I made it to my destination and I stood on a hilltop staring over the Bay area with the Golden Gate Bridge in my foresight (a life long dream of mine), I embraced that moment and felt so courageous for taking the opportunity...
Today, my heart is full of forgiveness.
Suzie, This experience has been life-altering. You have given me a new perspective and have framed this even in a way that I was unable to do on my own. I woke again at 4:00 am (but) the first words that came to mind were... "Today, my heart is full of forgiveness." I love that man so much and I know that he is worth fighting for. Thank you for your wisdom, talent, charm, empathy & humor.
Have spent a good part of the afternoon soaking in the program
Thank you for solving the issue with my email and helping me to find my Betrayed Partner program. I logged on successfully and have spent a good part of the afternoon soaking in the program. Perfect information at the perfect time... Please let Suzie know how truly grateful I am. Thank you!
I had an emotional affair with another man
Suzie, This is the most helpful site I found, thank you sooooo much! I had an emotional affair with another man. I feel so alone in this problem because I have to find the way for forgiveness from my husband, and all the information you have is really helping me. God bless you!
Talking with her made a big difference with me today
I just want to thank you for squeezing me in with Suzie today. She is amazing. She is a great listener, so down to earth, knowledgeable and I am looking forward to talking with her again. I have already learned a lot from her Wayward Rehab sessions. But talking with her made a big difference with me today.
Thank you for making it free, available & so honest
Hi Suzie, Many thanks! My name is Susan, been married for 22 years & recently discovered my husband was having an emotional affair with someone he was 'mentoring'. This has been one of the hardest things I had to face in my life & as we all know it's something you can NEVER prepare for... In my darkest moments a friend recommended I search the internet for some help. On my own, on holiday, in a total state of anguish, despair & obsession, knowing full well that my husband was still in contact with her, even after he promised to DNC, I browsed the Net & found your site. THANK YOU! Thank you for making it free, available & so honest. Over the past few weeks I have read all your articles & have to say that somehow, in each one of them, I found relevance to me & my situation: even as the ' betrayed spouse', I found sections in the 'wayward partner' & the 'affair partner' that resonated with me & helped me on the road to recovery, forgiveness & healing on a personal level. Your articles have kept me sane & comforted throughout my most desperate moments....
We have found Suzie’s guiding principles to be a KEY component to our personal growth
I can only say the sessions in Suzie's Marriage Rehab course have been nothing short of completely enlightening. We have been attending both couples counseling and one on one counseling and we have found Suzie's guiding principles to be a KEY component to our personal growth, our recovery and the growth of our relationship. Along with our love of each other, our willingness to try and our own efforts, Suzie's insights have given us the tools and knowledge to not only get through the storm, but to start visualizing and crafting a future in which we live differently in ourselves and in our relationships. But, for us, Writing a list of specific needs, verbalizing them to ourselves and then to each other was key in allowing us to recognize our needs, understand them, understand how we felt when they weren't being met, understanding if they were genuine needs or those borne of fear based emotions and then understanding them in more of a global, less specific setting. Since a big part of our problem was not understanding our own needs, not being okay with actually having them, compounded by not asking for those needs to be met, I hope to...
Oh thanks Suzie, you saved my marriage.:))
Dear Suzie, Thank you so much for your amazing coach session on Monday. You are one in a million. All I did was text my husband that I was wrong, I should have felt safe to talk to him about my affair. If he was hurting me it worked that I am one one time learner etc... Anyway, he is now moving back in, he told me he loved me (hadn't for months) and that everybody makes mistakes and that he will get over this. Oh thanks Suzie, you saved my marriage.:))
Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this
The day I discovered my husband had been cheating on me was the day I thought my entire life was over. We had only been married for 7 months. The pure shock of that moment struck me like a bolt of lightning. Although the chances of being hit by lightning are much more slim. My first reaction was obviously: divorce. That's the only option at that moment, right? Well, not exactly. After the initial bolt of electricity runs through your body, you have to realize that you can survive after going through such a traumatic experience. You just can't go through it alone. You need someone like Suzie. Your life is not over, it's actually just begun. This intense current running through your bones can kill you if you let it. Don't. Fight. Fight the urge to just lay down and take it. Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this. She gave us the tools to pick up all the charred pieces and build something new again. She's a miracle worker. Please trust her to do the same with you. She helped me rehabilitate...
I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!)
I just wanted to thank you again for your quick response with helping me find my password to access my home-study programs. Your website and coaching tools are extremely helpful in my life. I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!) and I wanted to let you and Suzie know that they were such a great help. Words can't even describe how thankful I am for having found Suzie's website when I did. Thank you Again!!!!
I am so thankful I found this program
I am so grateful for this site and this help. I can't wait to be a walking testimony of this program. I've already listened to "First Aid" twice and enjoyed my Quiet 10 last night. I'm now on step two of the Betrayed Recovery Home Study course. I am so thankful I found this program. Thank you so much! I can't even describe the help Suzie is to me!! I'm excited to keep going.
We both have the greatest respect for you
Suzie, we both have the greatest respect for you. God Bless and keep you in the palm of his hand - because that's how you made us feel while we were blindly trusting you to help us though this most devastating period of our lives, while maintaining privacy. Your keen understanding, caring attitude, profound spiritual and spot on intellectual wisdom, still continue to resonate within us. You are truly a gifted person and Coach. Thank you so very much.
Healing the Hurt has made a huge impact on my life
Dear Suzie, Thank you so much for all your hard work. I finally finished listening to all of Healing the Hurt last night. This has made a huge impact on my life. Especially the part on "Ego"... wow! Talk about looking in the mirror. Sometimes it's hard to see the real person you are. Positive changes are being made in my life. Again, thank you!
Thank you so much for all your help
Just wanted to let you know that we were able to successfully download the collection. So far, everything she is saying has been super helpful. Thank you so much for all your help. Please give Suzie my best regards. I sincerely appreciate her diligence and dedication for the intimate health of her clients.
I was very skeptical in the beginning
I cannot BEGIN to tell you what a help Suzie's home study sessions have been. I was very skeptical in the beginning and a little put off by the price, but ultimately, it was worth every penny. THANK YOU!
We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks
I discovered my husband was having an affair about 8 weeks ago we are committed to making our marriage work. We have been attending counseling for the last 4 weeks but we are getting more out of Suzie's articles and her home study programs than we have been with the counseling. We really appreciate how much she puts into all of her work. Thank you. This has been a Godsend for us
I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life!
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay, but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
Graceful Exits is Astounding
Hello Brad,I want to thank you again for "Graceful Exits". While each program has helped the subject of its title, "Graceful Exits" is astounding. It holds many clues about affairs which have helped me understand and come to grips with what has happened. I appreciate the clarity and logic Suzie offers. It is helpfully applicable to other spheres of life. Suzie explains the payback and de-motivation theory so well. I am the betrayed looking for answers and solace. "Graceful Exits" taught me so much about human nature that I feel equipped to really make a difference with my marriage and relationships in general. I now have better depth of understanding, compassion and will apply it to myself and family. It's as if the pieces of a puzzle are beginning to fit together. Thank you. All the best and many heartfelt thanks to you and Suzie.
It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling
I just wanted to reach out and say thank you for this website. I am a partner in an affair that has been going on for two years. I have lost and sacrificed a lot for this much older man with the delusion that it was going to be something more. I left my husband, hurt my family and lost friends. I tried and tried so many times to break it off only to be weak and go back to the self deprecating cycle. I found it so hard to talk to my friends about it because I felt bad for breaking my promise when I would come to them crying and vowing that it was over. I felt foolish and alone. I am well educated and have a fantastic career but man, when it came to him I was weak. I stumbled across this website one night when I was fed up with the un-returned text messages. It felt like you knew exactly what I was thinking and feeling and just the right way to say the truth without making it negative. Tonight I told him that we need to stop talking. I am sure that he thinks I...
I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive
The sessions really did help me a lot. I am now practicing to look to where my anger is pointing and trying to not get caught up in obsessing in knowing answers to things that really have answers and do not heal. I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive... myself, others in this, and others in my past... as I am finding the process also leads me into childhood events as well. Thanks for everything. You and Suzie are angels!
We were very awestruck
Suzie was amazing! We were very awestruck actually conversing with her after spending so much of our recent life listening to her voice through our Marriage Rehab lessons. We found her session very helpful and thought provoking, so much so that I have just booked a Skype session towards the end of the month. Thank you again for all you and Suzie do!
Suzie WILL help you
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
You are what we are most Thankful for
Hi Suzie, We wish you and yours a beautiful Thanksgiving and Christmas Season! We are Thankful for you helping people like us ... who 'walked into ... pure hell ... and are trying to find our way back to the 'real love and respect' we had for each other. We are making progress... I know we still do love each other. I hope our love can handle all this necessary 'shaking off the dirt' that spit upon us, during his 'affairs-escape-rides'. And so many other affairs I am certain he has had and will not yet or ever admit - Thank you Suzie, for being available to help us find our way back to some sort of peace of mind. You are what we are most Thankful for. Your passion to help others is a gift we all will take with us and be grateful for....no matter what the outcome is. Thank you so much!
I’m 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably
Suzie...I'm just so, so, so grateful for you and the inspired work you do. I'm 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably the fetal position partly owing to your loving and so helpful work. And that you offer a treasure trove of free resources is so loving and generous of you. The 14 questions for betrayed spouse is life-affirming. Thank you for offering the vision of achieving wholeness again and the tools to get there. Rich and abundant blessings to you.
Your website has been a saving grace for me
I have been married for 7 years. During this time I have had proof of my husband flirting on social media. Recently my intuition was telling me something is not right. So I investigated and managed to get a recording of him telling someone he missed them & was thinking of them. This revelation has torn my world apart... but what hurts most is that I have confronted my husband without the recordings & he refuses to admit & says to show him the proof. His phone is locked & on silent & recently he looked through mine to see if he found the proof. Your website has been a saving grace for me. Before I would have argued, but I am drawing strength & wisdom from your website and I have asked him to leave. He has packed his clothes & put them in garage but he hasn't moved. I have purchased your betrayed partner home study. I have also sent links for the wayward rehab course to my husband. I feel like your website and programs are truly heaven sent. It's okay to share my recommendation on your website. Thank you so much for taking the time to...
Your website has indeed inspired me
Your website has indeed inspired me and shown me the more mistakes I have made with my wife, in trying to rebuild our lovely marriage. It has shown me that reconciliation is a process not a destination and has assisted me to finally decide on which wolf in my heart I should feed. Thank you!
I think your website and the work you are doing is amazing!
Thank you for your prompt reply and solution. Many thanks! I think your website and the work you are doing is amazing!
Suzie is amazing
Suzie is amazing. If she can't get through to someone, I don't think anyone can.
I feel much better
Suzie was absolutely wonderful. She made me realize things about myself that I hadn't noticed. I really feel much better! 🙂
Suzie’s programs and coaching have helped me more than I can ever explain
I had another session with Suzie I want to get access to the Marriage Rehab for couples and she said that because I had already purchased several, credit could be given for those purchased and I could get a new total price from you on the whole set for my husband and I. As an aside, you guys are awesome. You have been more than kind when I have called and spoken with you, and your wife is an absolute gem. Suzie's programs and coaching have helped me more than I can ever explain and I am so happy that I found your service. I hope you have a wonderful weekend! Thanks so much!
The program is AMAZING
Thank you so much! The program is AMAZING. I have literally been nodding through the entire thing because I can't believe how accurately it describes me! I can't wait to get some of the other programs she has coming out. Can you let me know when Passionate Monogamy is ready? Thanks again!
Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling
Thanks so much Suzie. We have found your couples course we have reviewed so far to be VERY helpful and a "breath of fresh air" for both of us as we continue to try and figure out the best way to work through this. Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling, books, etc. and just have not seemed to be able to find a comprehensive approach that has helped make much of a difference for us so far. Finally, we have a sense of hope and direction. Thank you!
I’ve just read moving on from an emotional affair.
Oh my God, I am crying tears of joy right now. I've just read your article on moving on from an emotional affair. I feel that was written just for me. I cannot even believe it. I feel like a person who thought they had a fatal illness only to find out they had a cold. I have been in an emotional affair with a man I met traveling on business. He lives with his wife in another country. I cannot let him go. I refused to let it go further than a kiss and a hug goodbye physically... but I cannot get this man out of my mind. I actually had the thought that it was like a drug addict seeking help and just being told that he is an idiot for using drugs. I could not believe when you compared it to an addiction! Thank you so so so so much for writing that. I am ready to let go of this. You are like that wise teacher... Telling me I am selfish and immoral would not be helpful. For the first time in ages, I feel hope. I had gotten very low. At one point I was...
The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now
This is the perfect stepping stone on my path to recovery. I truly sense it in my spirit. The victim vs. survivor thought process is really resonating with me now. I have been trying to move forward after the ordeal but seemingly am in a holding pattern. The quick response leads me to believe you genuinely care. This is so needed at the moment. Friends of mine feel empathy but do not understand what going through this entails. Thanks again!
I used to fly off the handle FIRST then calm down after
Suzie... Pat yourself on the back... I am not dependent on anyone and although lonely... Can happily survive on my own... This was never the case before coaching. I want Linda to be okay more than anything... I want her to want us and our family but I now know I can and will survive if we split up. I have looked after family, business, food, school, ironing, etc etc... Not perfect but work hard and can survive. I WANT Linda but don't NEED her... This is thanks to Suzie and my hard work (Alec takes some credit lol). That said... I love Linda... Never understood how much until all this so actually although the worst time of my life.... I know I am a survivor. I have more friends now I have coped and succeeded at being a dad. I support the wife without smothering. I listen... Not dictate. And as Linda said last night... I used to fly off the handle FIRST then calm down after... Now I think before action. Thanks Suzie... Don't worry... I also take credit... but just want you to know that you showed me how to do it. 1. Never violate free will...