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I emerged with a sense of gratitude and renewed hope
Thank you for your insight and assistance today. I'm so grateful to have given myself permission to begin to forgive myself for my behavior. I took a two-hour hike in the woods in the rain today and emerged with a sense of gratitude and renewed hope for my future. I will surely continue to learn how to be my best self, but I feel I am definitely on my way. Your work is important, and I'm so thankful for your coaching.
I appreciate that every session you offer is world class and very helpful
First of all, can I congratulate you and Suzie on a fantastic website and superb tools and resources? They are proving to be a great source of help and support. Secondly, can I also congratulate you on such fantastic customer service? As for the missing Quiet 10 session, it is not a problem for me at all. It really isn’t. It was just that I thought I was having a computer-based issue and not able to access a file that I was led to believe was there. It was only because it was on the product description that I was looking for it. Since there isn’t actually one I can relax as it means I am not going mad or that my computer is not having issues. As for your incredibly generous compensation offer, let me say thank you very much. However, there is no need to make such an offer (though I am very grateful and appreciative that you did make it). I appreciate that every session you offer is world class and very helpful but I wouldn’t dream of expecting such generous compensation over such a trivial matter. It was a minor mistake and it certainly did not...
He looooved the Skype couples session
Suzie, You were amazing yesterday in focusing on his charisma awareness! He looooved the Skype couple's session. You are such an inspiration! I love you dearest Suzie 😉 Mmmwah!
Self-respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon
Hi Suzie! Thank you for your website. I am learning a lot and your articles give me peace of mind and re-kindle the Love in my heart. Suzie if you were in front of me I would hug you tight. So please pretend, receive my hug of thanks. I appreciate your approach. It makes every wounded psyche back to wholeness. Self respect is restored and forgiveness is on the horizon. Thank you again and your articles, for a lack of the better word right now, is to me, the best I've read. I still go back to your articles every day and every moment I get . Thank you so much. God bless you. Know that you are helping a lot of people, wounded or not. Hope to meet you in the future.
Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling
Thanks so much Suzie. We have found your couples course we have reviewed so far to be VERY helpful and a "breath of fresh air" for both of us as we continue to try and figure out the best way to work through this. Up until now we have muddled our way through counseling, books, etc. and just have not seemed to be able to find a comprehensive approach that has helped make much of a difference for us so far. Finally, we have a sense of hope and direction. Thank you!
Extremely helpful so far
My husband and I have found GoAskSuzie to be extremely helpful so far. I would (and have) recommended this site to all my friends who are having these types of issues. Thank you!
I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive
The sessions really did help me a lot. I am now practicing to look to where my anger is pointing and trying to not get caught up in obsessing in knowing answers to things that really have answers and do not heal. I am wrapping my mind and heart around trying to forgive... myself, others in this, and others in my past... as I am finding the process also leads me into childhood events as well. Thanks for everything. You and Suzie are angels!
Thank you for making it free, available & so honest
Hi Suzie, Many thanks! My name is Susan, been married for 22 years & recently discovered my husband was having an emotional affair with someone he was 'mentoring'. This has been one of the hardest things I had to face in my life & as we all know it's something you can NEVER prepare for... In my darkest moments a friend recommended I search the internet for some help. On my own, on holiday, in a total state of anguish, despair & obsession, knowing full well that my husband was still in contact with her, even after he promised to DNC, I browsed the Net & found your site. THANK YOU! Thank you for making it free, available & so honest. Over the past few weeks I have read all your articles & have to say that somehow, in each one of them, I found relevance to me & my situation: even as the ' betrayed spouse', I found sections in the 'wayward partner' & the 'affair partner' that resonated with me & helped me on the road to recovery, forgiveness & healing on a personal level. Your articles have kept me sane & comforted throughout my most desperate moments....
We look forward to completing the all the healing and forgiving sessions
My husband and I have not experienced infidelity (yet)
I'd just like to say that my husband and I have not experienced infidelity (yet), but as I read Suzie's articles, I could see that our marriage could easily head in that direction if we do not make some changes. I was really drawn to the "infidelity proofing your marriage" concepts that Suzie speaks of. We are taking the approach of fixing things between us before it gets to infidelity because all of the factors that lead to infidelity (passiveness, boredom, feeling in prison, etc.) is already there. Thank you, again.
Yes, please upgrade me
Wow, this is the most amazing customer service! Yes, please upgrade me. Thank you for your help and wonderful service.
Thank you for helping me make sense of this chaos
Suzie, I honestly don't know what I would have done if I didn't find your site on the internet this past Spring. (slight variation: "You find what you need to know when you need to know it!") Thank you for helping me make sense of this chaos and paste my shattered self back together! Wishing you the Best - Always!
I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!)
I just wanted to thank you again for your quick response with helping me find my password to access my home-study programs. Your website and coaching tools are extremely helpful in my life. I went through the whole program again yesterday and today (again!) and I wanted to let you and Suzie know that they were such a great help. Words can't even describe how thankful I am for having found Suzie's website when I did. Thank you Again!!!!
I’m 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably
Suzie...I'm just so, so, so grateful for you and the inspired work you do. I'm 29 days from discovery and NOT under the covers in crying inconsolably the fetal position partly owing to your loving and so helpful work. And that you offer a treasure trove of free resources is so loving and generous of you. The 14 questions for betrayed spouse is life-affirming. Thank you for offering the vision of achieving wholeness again and the tools to get there. Rich and abundant blessings to you.
We have been able to make some very meaningful progress in our recovery
I would like you to know that Suzie's website, blog and coaching sessions have been so very helpful for me and my husband. I so appreciate her outlook and I/we have been able to make some very meaningful progress in our recovery.
Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this
The day I discovered my husband had been cheating on me was the day I thought my entire life was over. We had only been married for 7 months. The pure shock of that moment struck me like a bolt of lightning. Although the chances of being hit by lightning are much more slim. My first reaction was obviously: divorce. That's the only option at that moment, right? Well, not exactly. After the initial bolt of electricity runs through your body, you have to realize that you can survive after going through such a traumatic experience. You just can't go through it alone. You need someone like Suzie. Your life is not over, it's actually just begun. This intense current running through your bones can kill you if you let it. Don't. Fight. Fight the urge to just lay down and take it. Suzie showed me that the love I have for my husband, our marriage and our future was much stronger than all of this. She gave us the tools to pick up all the charred pieces and build something new again. She's a miracle worker. Please trust her to do the same with you. She helped me rehabilitate...
It’s like I knew you!
Suzie, Thank you so much for your time and giving me the tools for my journey to neutral and internal peace. I'm so grateful for the universe for putting you in my path of healing. What amazed me the most was how quickly you not only understood me and my situation but how my mind was processing everything which then you were able to give me exactly what I needed. You were so easy to talk to as well. It's like I knew you! I went back to work after 5 weeks of being home and am not only putting the health issue behind me but also the situation that happened. It's like starting fresh with a new perspective on life. Please keep doing what you're doing, because you're absolutely amazing and are helping so many people like me who have no where else to go. I wish you and your family success, happiness and a lifetime of Love! With Deepest Gratitude
The most effective information I’ve read or listened to – really well done
Another day of lifesaving wisdom from Suzie Johnson Phew!!! The insights contained in Wayward Rehab is the best, smartest, most effective information I've read or listened to - really well done. Thank you so much!! So grateful to have found this resource.
It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship
Thank you so much for all you’ve done for us. I really don’t know if we could have gotten through these tough times without you and your programs. Brooke has been loving and nice to me and there have been no awkward discussions about the past. We are communicating much better at work and at home. She deserves a lot of praise. I’ve tried to do so all week. I know there’s still work to do, but I’m ready for it. It’s the first time in a long time I feel secure with myself and our relationship and it really feels like I’m living more in the moment and not so much in the past or future. I can’t say thank you enough... coach. 🙂 As Brooke has said before, you truly are our angel. Have a great weekend!
It’s better than any therapist meetings or books I’ve read. Amazing!
Suzie, I can't even tell you how helpful these programs have been. I wish I had them 30 days ago. They are better than any therapist meetings or books I've read. Amazing!
Graceful Exits is astounding
I want to thank you again for "Graceful Exits". While each program has helped the subject of its title, "Graceful Exits" is astounding. I am the betrayed looking for answers and solace. "Graceful Exits" taught me so much about human nature that I feel equipped to really make a difference with my marriage and relationships in general. I now have a better depth of understanding, compassion and will apply it to myself and family. It's as if the pieces of a puzzle are beginning to fit together. Thank you.
I recently read about the woman whose husband had an “emotional affair”
I recently read about the woman whose husband had an "emotional affair" and Suzie's response which was brilliant. I experienced the same thing - only the other woman involved CALLED me - made up events/locations - until finally, we had to get a harassment order against her. Men need to know when to say "Enough is Enough". Think about what could or will happen to your family. Very scary situation for me and could have been for our children!
We are doing great since our 3-day weekend intensive with you
Suzie Hi! Just a note to tell you that we are doing great since our 3-day weekend intensive with you. Mark has now much more "awareness" in all fields of his life: Me, Kids, Work and it is a real miracle to see him acting in a new way. Thank you! As for me, I am feeling safer and I am starting finally to relax and enjoy the renewed energy. Words can't tell you what a blessing you were/are to our lives. God Bless you. Missing you tons!
Love and perseverance can win over and over again
Dear Suzie, Just a quick note before heading to sleep to tell you HOW FABULOUS YOU ARE! WooooooOooooooW! Chapeau bas (in french Heads up) for your stunning approach... I am speechless with admiration! And YES today you made me believe again that Love and Perseverance can win over and over again! Words fail to thank you enough... Gratefully x 10000000000
Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless
I recently purchased your Wayward Rehab home study and have been listening to Suzie. She has been an incredible source of help and support. I am so thankful for her. Suzie saved me when I was completely hopeless and helpless. I now feel like I can do this and there is a light at the end of this tunnel. I not only feel like I can do it, I now know how. Thank you. My purchase was smooth and the programs easy to access.
He is following all of your advice
First, let me start out by thanking you for your wonderful website and all of your helpful, healing programs. You have been a daily companion of mine for several months now. To give you a little background on our situation, my husband and I have been married 25 years. I discovered about 6 months ago that he was having an affair with a woman from work. I had absolutely no idea anything was even wrong. It had been going on for about two months when I found out. To say I’m devastated would truly be an understatement. Like one of the women you refer to in your programs, we were the couple everyone referred to as “the happy couple.” He is following all of your advice. He ordered the complete home study library when we found your website. He is remorseful, and being transparent and he’s convinced he will never do anything like this again. I have moments where I believe him and I can see a strong, happy future together and then something triggers for me and I don’t have any idea if he’s being real with me or not and I completely break down. I didn’t have any...
I am free
Please let Suzie know that I greatly appreciate her series on how to end an affair. Taking her advice to heart saved my life, my family, my career and my financial future. I couldn't seem to end my affair after several attempts. It's been over three weeks since I've broken free and I feel so relieved and unburdened for the first time in a long time. I can sleep now, can look at my family without the horrible guilt hanging over my head. And I can look at myself in the mirror without self loathing. Suzie's wisdom and ability to effectively communicate that wisdom, is second to none. I will forever be grateful that I stumbled upon her website. My husband of 22 years and I are going through Passionate Monogamy and the Passionate Couple. We are very excited and are reconnecting in ways we never dreamed possible. Thank you for giving me the keys to freedom and helping me avoid making the biggest mistake of my life by leaving my husband and family. I now adopt a saying I heard Paul Newman say a long time ago about his own marriage "why would I settle for hamburger when I...
Your website here has been the most beautiful and genuine thought-provoking source of encouragement that I have ever found
Dear Suzie, It has been four years almost to the day since the discovery of my husband's year-long affair and I have experienced some of my darkest, most painful and challenging moments in these past few years. I have felt like no one on earth was able to console me or comfort me which I found to be true... that God was my strength and my joy during these times and still remains. I have made many mistakes in dealing with the aftermath of my husbands affair by attacking him verbally and even physically at times because of my deep feelings of betrayal. We were the "perfect" happy couple with 2 beautiful little boys and a baby girl on her way. We were always deeply in love and I thought if anything else went wrong on this earth, I knew that my marriage would be solid and strong because of the love and commitment we shared as a couple. I was blindsided and felt like I was hit by a Mack truck when I discovered the truth. It has taken me these years of anger, confusion, sadness to find that my true joy in life wasn't really in the trust...
I felt so different when I woke up this morning
Thank you so much for arranging my session with Suzie. I was really struggling and she was amazing! I felt so different when I woke up this morning. It was truly life-changing! I was planning to buy The Power of Passionate Monogamy. It says online that it will be ready Dec. 17th. Do you think it will be ready by then?
My husband and I give Suzie credit for helping save our marriage
My husband and I have gone through some together and I've done others alone... How To Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage, Standing in the Storm, How to Break Free from the Affair, Infidelity Recovery 101. Honestly, they are all so good...we are amazed. We talk about Suzie like she's a friend or member of our family...first name basis! She has such wisdom. I find myself just laughing, shaking my head at times, amazed by her insight. Probably my favorites right now are How to Infidelity-Proof Your Marriage and How to Break Free. We are not stopping there though 🙂 As to why those both contain such poignant insights and very specific tips and 'to-dos'. I also find her compassionate approach to dealing with the Wayward partner so helpful, but she doesn't coddle. There is just so little out there to help those on that side. She respects the power of the affair in a way that helps you put it into perspective and then really grasp how to get out. There's more I could say. But my husband and I give Suzie credit for helping save our marriage.
Nothing has been as helpful as Suzie’s sessions
We want to share our story and let people know that Suzie's coaching and courses have been very very helpful to both of us. Twenty-three years of marriage to an exec who had a 3 1/2 year affair with a much younger woman at work. He wanted out after 2 years but thought I'd leave him if I found out so she manipulated him by saying she'd tell me and our children. She said she'd leave him alone if he'd give her a child, which he did (sounds ridiculous when spoken aloud). She told me in December via a text which she denied and then proceeded to tell our children two weeks later. My daughter had an amazing relationship with her father and she now can barely speak to him she's so angry. I am trying to get her to listen too but so far she is unwilling. I agreed to stay with my husband and I was stuck in a roller coaster of pain. He has done everything right since the minute I found out and I knew if I could let go of the pain we would have a very happy future, easier said than done. After listening...
I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life!
For all of the men out there who have stumbled across these words because you are thinking of having an affair or are in one now, this isn’t just by chance. You are here because you are supposed to be. If you love your wife and yourself and your family like I do, stop and think about what is real in your life and what you really want. It may be that you don’t know right now and that is okay, but I promise you that if you talk to Suzie just once, you will have a different opinion about your wife and yourself and your life! There is a world of things that make us think we have to be like or act like someone or something else but if you are ever going to be a man of independence and know your place in your world, educate yourself and find yourself. You will find honesty and forgiveness in yourself, your wife and even others. The truth is hard but when you live transparently, you are truly a free soul and the best friend and husband. The day my wife learned the truth about my affair was the best...
It is amazing and is saving my sanity!
I am sooooo loving the home study sessions!! They have helped so much!! Even though these revolve around infidelity, which there hasn't been in our marriage, they are perfect for any situation. I have needed to learn to forgive and let go for most of my life!! I am 41 years old and hadn't learned this. It is amazing and is saving my sanity!! Thank you so much!! Love her voice, its so soothing and relaxing!! I just let a Doctor friend of my review to one of your sessions, Healing the Hurt, he is so inspired. He has had so much hate for his ex-wife, whom he has talked badly about in front of their kids. I stopped him and said to him he needed to let it go and forgive her, he was so angry and wouldn't look at me... within 1 hr, after listening to her, he is empowered and on your website now wanting more! Wanting to purchase anything he can of hers..... His name is (deleted for privacy). I'm sure you will be hearing from him shortly. Just wanting to give you the heads up. 🙂 Anyway, wanted you to know how much I am...
The sessions helped tremendously to better manage the negative thoughts
Good Morning, Thank you so much for this, I can't remember the last time someone did something as nice as this for me. I'm so lost, with the aftermath of this. I wish I had someone without judgment to talk to. I don't have any friends I feel comfortable enough to talk with about what happened... only family, and they are biased to my situation and frankly tired of hearing about it. They either want me to move on or forgive! That simple. I needed help in forgiving and moving forward to save my relationship. I was completely upside down on my way of thinking. Suzie's sessions on forgiveness and healing have helped tremendously - to better manage the negative thoughts that run through my head. Warmest Regards! "Change your thoughts and you change your world. " ~Norman Vincent Peale
I don’t think there would be any hope left for my relationship if I hadn’t discovered you
Dear Suzie, First of all, I want to thank you for your amazingness! I don't think there would be any hope left for my relationship if I hadn't discovered you and your brilliant online coaching programs. And I am speaking from a lot of experience with majorly traumatic episodes in my life. Through all of those experiences I have researched and read profusely about the matters I was dealing with and psychological and spiritual approaches to dealing with them. This latest trauma of betrayal has been no different, and you are clearly THE expert in my view. Your voice, your language, your vision, your understanding, your compassion, even your Caribbean accent, all work together to form the perfect guidance for all parties involved in the affair. So thank you with all my heart.
Your advice has really helped me break free of my emotional affair
Hi Suzie, Just wanted to say thank you to you. I have been looking for advice of this kind for some months now. Your advice has really helped me break free of my emotional affair. For the first time in months, I feel better and happy and the fog has lifted, and I feel able to do what I secretly knew I had to do but just couldn't bring myself to break away for my thoughts and feelings. I realize now what a fantasy world I was living in and look forward to moving on. Thanks again.